People can cope with the loss of a friend or loved one in one of many ways. For some people, the experience of a loss may lead to personal growth and development, even at this difficult time. There is one thing that is important to understand and that is there is no right way of coping with death. The way a person grieves completely depends on the personality of the person and the relationship of the person with the lost loved one. People may deal with death differently due to religious backgrounds, mental history and other factors too.
The terms grief, bereavement and mourning are often used in place of each other but have very different meanings. South Wales Monuments want to explain the meaning of these words to help you deal with the process of losing a loved one and understanding how you are feeling. If you would like more information on dealing with a loved one or process’ to deal with grief please call South Wales Monuments today for more information on 02920006701.
South Wales Monuments can help with the healing process by providing a bespoke and personalised headstones for your loved one. Choosing a memorial for your loved one can be hard as you will want it to be special. Here at South Wales Monuments, we have an experienced team of craftsmen who can help you decide on the perfect memorial and design for the one that you love. Our team would like to assure you that the process is as quick and easy as possible, as we know it can be a very hard time.
Grief is the normal process which happens when you are reacting to a loss. The feeling of grief can occur when there is a death in the family or even social losses such as a divorce or loss of a job. Each type of grief happens when something is taken away. Grief may be described as the presence of physical problems or thoughts of a person who has died.
Bereavement is usually the period after a loss during which grief is experienced and mourning occurs. The time spent in the period of bereavement completely depends on how attached the person was to the person who passed away and how much time was spent anticipating the loss.
Mourning is a public expression of our grief. It is also known as the societal process by which we adapt to loss. Examples of mourning include a funeral or memorial service, flying flags at half-mast, closing a business temporarily, lighting a candle and many other rituals which help us feel like we are doing something to recognise a loss.
The Stages Of Dealing With A Loss
During 1969, A psychiatrist called Elisabeth Kubler-Ross introduced what formally became known as the “five stages of grief” These individual stages were based on studies of the feelings of patients facing terminal illness’, but a lot of people have generalised them to other types of negative life changes, losses such as a loss of a loved one, divorce or a break-up.
The Five Stages Of Grief
- Denial – Questioning why this is happening to you.
- Anger – Trying to find someone to blame
- Bargaining – Suggesting that by you doing something for someone they can take the pain away in return.
- Depression – Being too upset to do anything
- Acceptance – Being at peace with the loss.
It is important to identify these and know that if you are feeling any of these emotions that it is completely natural and normal and you will heal in time. You do not need to go through each stage in order to heal. In fact, some people resolve their grief without going through any of the stages.
Here Are Some Helpful ‘Dos And ‘Don’ts’ For Grief
- Try talking about your feelings to a family member or friend.
- Find different techniques of getting to sleep if you are struggling to relax.
- Peer support
- Use relaxation and mindfulness apps.
- Don’t take on too much responsibility
- Don’t focus on things you can’t change
- Try not to tell yourself that you’re alone
- Try not to use alcohol, cigarettes, gambling or drugs to relieve grief.
South Wales Monuments
South Wales Monuments offer a personal service and will be able to guide you through the entire process. We have a team of experienced professionals in designing, crafting and implementing memorials, all completed to the highest of standards.
We are proud to have a huge range of unique headstones to choose from and can cater to everyone’s different needs through a range of different areas in Wales and the South West of England. If you would like to speak to one of the team members for more information on our services please contact us today on 02920006701.
Sarah Wirth is the content writer for South Wales Monuments and updates our blog regularly with helpful advice and new information.